By Pastor Phil Magnan 

Special note to my readers:

I enjoy respectful dialogues with those whom I disagree. It is not my intention to be harsh or hateful. To simply oppose a behavior is not hateful, if anything, it is out of great concern for the precious worth of every human being. That includes you. My intention is to give what I believe are sound reasons as to why same sex relationships are highly problematic for society and as well as sinful before our Maker whom we will have to give an account.

I do not ignore the fact that having a same sex attraction could be a very difficult practice to overcome. I am convinced that if one truly wants to put away the sin of homosexuality that they can overcome it. But it is best if it is by the grace and Spirit of God, through the gospel of Christ. It is also imperative that one find a Bible believing church that will help you live a pure life in Christ. It is a profoundly good thing to find a church in which they will come along aside you, to introduce you to the living Savior through the gospel of Christ. To love you with the love of Jesus and give you the kind of understanding that we all want when we are struggling with our ungodly desires.

We are all tempted in many ways, but temptation in itself is not sin, as even Christ was tempted as a man. Sin is the agreeing with it, the practice of it and fantasizing of it; that makes us sin before God.

So without spiritual transformation through Christ we will not enjoy the best of what God has to offer. Even more importantly, it is inevitable that God will judge the world in righteousness, so we should come to know Christ the Savoir who will take away our sins and give us eternal life.

We should consider that there are others, who are caught in the web of addiction to porn, drugs and other behaviors that may also have to fight for the rest of their lives to over come the flesh and the devil. But I am also convinced that all things are possible with God and that those who walk by the Spirit will put to death the deeds of the flesh. I too must struggle against my sinful nature each day, understanding that I am just like Paul the Apostle who said, “who will deliver me from this body of death?!” Romans 7:24

I too must walk by the Spirit to remain pure for my wife. I too must be accountable in my church and receive proper instruction and exhortation from my brothers and sisters in the Lord. We all need each other’s encouragement to continue on the path that is narrow that leads to life.

My hope is that those who are trying to get out of the homosexual lifestyle will know that I salute them and want them to not go through their struggle alone. I know that many have tried and succeeded through Christ to live godly fulfilling lives. At the end of this article I have posted some links to organizations who can give you help.

I have spoken with those who have wanted to get out of the gay lifestyle. I can see the sadness and misery in their eyes. It is heartbreaking to see their struggle. It is also my hope that Christians will take up the call to be a friend to those who wish to leave the homosexual life and consider that Christ Himself calls us all to be an example of understanding and compassion towards all people; especially those who are repentant and desire help. Those who struggle with same sex attraction need caring and respectful attention.

I am not here to cast stones at homosexuals, (to condemn them with no hope for their future)

I know that there is help and hope in Jesus. Instead I want to warn them like a friend, I want them to fall at the feet of Christ for salvation! If you have come to Christ, lean heavily on the body of Christ to begin to practice a life of celibacy and holiness all to the glory of God. For Jesus Christ came to seek and save sinners like you and I. We all desperately need help and healing!

“For God so loved the world, (that includes you and me) that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes on Him (trusts in Him completely) will not perish, (come under the righteous judgment of God) but have everlasting life. (To know God and be in His presence forever)

Some Reasons to consider: Why Homosexuality Is Wrong and Hurts Society

1. Homosexuality injures the fabric of society, especially children.

A societal acceptance of same sex relationships gives vulnerable children the impression that same sex relationships are good, moral and healthy. Not only does the Bible condemn such behavior, but medical professionals have affirmed that these kinds of sexual relationships are unhealthy. A society that accepts immoral relationships cause children to stumble into immorality. Jesus Christ said that “if anyone causes one of these little one’s to stumble, (sin) it would be better if he put a mill stone around his neck and throw himself into the sea.” Matthew 18:6

Acceptance of these unnatural acts sets a society up for gender and sexual confusion, which brings about widespread immorality, which tears the family down. I am certain that many will believe my views to be unfair as they know loving gay families who would do nothing to harm their children. Though there may be loving gay families, it does not erase the fact that homosexuality may rob a child from being raised in a family with a male Father or a female mother. Both sexes are essential to the well being of the child. Additionally, it was God’s design to have a male Father and a female mother, this design has been in existence for thousands of years and shouldn’t be replaced with the immoral practice of same sex relationships.

2. Homosexual acts do not promote the procreation of children

Logically speaking, if everyone's sexuality was expressed heterosexually, then humanity will survive and perpetuate our own kind for generations to come. But simply put, if everyone's sexuality was expressed homosexually, we would go extinct. Therefore homosexuality is counter productive to the survival of the human race. As one person has put it, the homosexual act is solely for the benefit of two same sex people and not for any potential procreation, thus it is a sterile act. To intentionally perform sexual acts without the potential to procreate children goes against the very nature of our own human perpetuity and fosters selfishness. This standard also applies to heterosexual couples who intentionally decide against having children, which also fosters selfishness and does nothing to propagate their own family line and legacy.

3. Homosexuality does not offer the stability of a traditional family.

Children need the stability of a traditional family. Children need a real male Father and a female Mother for proper and healthy development. Naturally speaking, there is the necessity of each of the male and female contributions to a child's life. (It has already been proven sadly that boys without fathers end up in jail or practice destructive behaviors a great deal more than those who have fathers.) The vast majority of the public knows instinctively that it would be better if both parents are present in a child’s life. Some research indicates that a child who is brought up in a homosexual home may be 4 to 10 times more likely to engage in homosexuality. If homosexuality can be learned, what does that say about the argument that people are born that way?

http://www.drtraycehansen.com/Pages/writings_prohomo.html

http://www.24-7pressrelease.com/view_press_release.php?rID=6509

4. Sadly, many homosexuals have a shortened lifespan.

If it is true that homosexuals have a shortened life span, then wouldn’t there be less likelihood that a same sex couple will even be alive to care for a child? Shouldn’t this be taken into consideration when Homosexual couples want to adopt children or take in foster children? According to many studies, the lifespan of homosexuals are much lower than that of heterosexuals. These tragic conditions create a much less stable home life for that child. The child has been placed in a home in which the parents have an inherent shorter life span.

What a terribly tragic thing it is that many from the gay community are dying when they could know the freedom of Christ through the gospel! To live a life for Christ instead of the flesh can give them not only a potentially longer life here on earth, but to live eternally in the presence of God.

5. Why do homosexuals have a higher rate of molestation than Heterosexuals?

Though it is true that in shear numbers most molestation is perpetrated by heterosexuals, surprisingly, as much as 33% of acts of child molestation are committed by homosexuals; and yet they only make up about 3% of our population. To allow homosexual couples to adopt children puts the children at greater risk of molestation.

Am I saying that all homosexuals are some kind of molester? Of course not! I am sure many homosexuals are just as outraged that anyone would sexually abuse a child. But one has to ask the question, why is there a disproportionate number of homosexuals who are having sexual relations with minors? Why do some homosexual advocacy groups want to lower the age of sexual consent with children? http://www.us2000.org/cfmc/Pedophilia.pdf

“At least 10% of men in our country have suffered from trauma as a result of sexual assault” and “men are perpetrators in about 86% of male victimization cases.”…..” Men who have not dealt with the symptoms of their sexual assault may experience confusion about their sexuality and role as men (their gender role).” “Those who sexually assault males usually choose young men and male adolescents (the average age is 17 years old) as their victims and are more likely to assault many victims, compared to those who sexually assault females.” US Department of Veteran Affairs http://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/pages/men-sexual-trauma.asp

http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2004/feb/040223a.html

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/2258616/posts

6. Homosexuality is not condoned in the Bible.

Acceptance of homosexuality in any form whether married or not has never been condoned in the Holy Scriptures of the Bible. There is absolutely no evidence in the 6000 year history of the Holy Bible of the wedding of homosexual couples. Homosexuality is even condemned to the point of receiving the death penalty. Leviticus 20:13 Jesus Christ and the Apostle Paul clearly taught that any immoral act was unacceptable before God. Popular opinion cannot change the fact that any immoral acts are an affront to the holy nature of God and His design. Those who are involved in these things are actually under the judgment of God. Romans 1:22-27, 32. 1Timothy 1:8-11 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

Jesus Christ also condemns all forms of immorality in Matthew 15:19. (The word Jesus uses in this passage for “immorality” is unlawful lust, or desire. (Consider this, that Jesus Christ, because He is the Word of God, God incarnate, wrote the very Law that condemns homosexuality) Leviticus 18:22, 20:13. The Apostle Paul states that the Law was meant for the unrighteous and he states that homosexuality is one of those unrighteous acts. 1Timothy 1:8-11.

Many proponents of homosexuality cite a passage in Ezekiel as proof that the destruction of Sodom was not because of homosexuality. But Ezekiel 16:49-50 actually shows that the progressive sin of Sodom was ultimately the committing of abominations. V.50. Homosexuality was considered an “abomination” throughout the Old Testament, (morally abhorrent act) In the New Testament, Jude 1:7 Confirms the sin of Sodom was this gross immorality, men wanting to have sex with the men who had visited Lot in Sodom. 

Some have said that the word “homosexual” was not even in the Bible when Paul wrote it. But the word does describe behavior that is relevant to homosexuals. There are two words used whenever homosexual is used by Paul the Apostle. In the literal sense the two words together speak of “male sexual cohabitation.” In modern terms it is describing the same sex relationship.

The passage by Paul the Apostle in Romans 1:22-27 is without a doubt a condemnation of same sex relations as it describes those who burn with passion for the same sex.

Homosexuality is condemned in the first and last books of the Bible, (Genesis 19:4-7 and Revelation 21:8, 22:15) which shows there is a consistent message throughout the entire Bible that condemns that kind of behavior. That would explain why there is not one incident of homosexual marriage in the Bible. And lest anyone put a broad stamp of approval of all heterosexual sexual relationships, heterosexual sexual relations are only acceptable within the bonds of marriage. Having sex outside of marriage with the opposite sex is equally abhorrent to God’s holiness and design for the family.

Special note: Paul says in 1 Corinthians 6:11 that “such were some of you, denoting the fact that some of those caught in adultery or homosexuality were able to overcome it, by the power of Christ! Forgiveness is available to anyone who is willing to repent (turn completely around) and put their faith in Christ for salvation. Jesus Christ indeed died for the sins of the homosexual that they might be saved.

7. Many homosexuals want to redefine marriage, changing the unique necessity of heterosexual marriage.

Many in the homosexual community do not simply want acceptance for same sex marriage; they want to redefine marriage. Should it not seem odd that the definition of the institution of marriage, as being between a man and woman, for the past 6000 years is being thrown out for something less than what is natural and stable? The agenda of same sex marriage proponents is to redefine marriage altogether which undermines the most stable form of marriage as being between one man and one woman. 

http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2004/feb/040223a.html

Same sex marriage opens up a wide door of acceptance for any kind of marital relationship which is damaging to the sanctity of marriage. Whereas real love in its purest form as defined in 1 Corinthians 13:6, as “love does not rejoice in unrighteousness.” To practice homosexuality is unrighteous; therefore it is an abandonment of true godly love.

Same sex relationships encourage a lifestyle that will keep one out of the kingdom of God, which puts us at odds with God Himself as sinning against Him and outside of God’s order for the family.

Some have asked the question, “How does my getting married to my partner affect your marriage or marriage in general?”

It’s a fair question to which I would answer. “When any relationship in society can be recognized as marriage, then marriage has become meaningless and thus for future generations many will abandon marriage altogether as it ceases it unique status to uplift the family in procreation, stability and holiness.”

Once same sex marriage is legally protected in the nation, governmental agencies will promote its protection and forced acceptance in the public schools, the Church and even the family.

To keep same sex couples from marrying is not discrimination. Keeping same sex couples from marrying is keeping them from discriminating against what is normal. Anymore than I feel discriminated against because I cannot marry my sister. Discrimination based on good judgment is a protection for the stability of society and the upholding of unalterable morals. A government allowing gays to marry would be endorsing the unnatural. Equal protection under the law was never meant to protect the enjoyment of what is immoral or harmful; otherwise laws become lawless and immoral.

Equal protection regarding marriage means that anyone, who is a single, adult, can marry another single adult person of the opposite sex as long as it is not their relative. Besides, sexual orientation is predominantly a behavior and not a fixed condition like race, as many have abandoned homosexuality to reclaim their heterosexual identity. No one would agree that you can change your race, because that is something that is strictly defined by your genes. Whereas there are tens of thousands who have overcome their same sex lifestyle to live out their lives the way God created them to be, as heterosexuals. To give an immoral behavior a protected status or special rights makes society a proponent of that behavior, thus harming society as a whole.

It is my belief that sex couples should not be rewarded with the benefits of marriage, because immoral behavior should not be rewarded. It is not a matter of rights or fairness, if the act is immoral, why should that be praised or rewarded? Most do not think that adulterers or co-habitators should be rewarded alimony or benefits. Should any sin be tolerated or promoted with benefits? Those who want the benefits of marriage should comply with the intent of the Creator that intended only marriage, between one man and one woman. Feelings for fairness do not determine what is right or moral or you will have moral anarchy. The reason heterosexual married couples are rewarded benefits is that society recognizes this as the best kind of relationship for stability and perpetuation of human kind.

With all of that said, I am equally appalled at the lack of godly care that heterosexuals should have had for the sanctity of marriage as many continue to practice adultery, co-habitation and cheap divorce based on selfishness. If anything, heterosexuals have done more damage to the sanctity of marriage than the homosexual community. It is time for every one; both gay and straight to come to their senses, repent and follow God’s design for marriage which should be a model of godliness, faithfulness and loving service. It is in the faithful witness of life long monogamous marriage between a man and a woman that gives the Church of Christ the greatest voice of credibility in the fight for the sanctity of marriage

8. Homosexual relationships are dangerously unhealthy.

Same sex relations deny some of the most basic fundamentals of proper mechanical applications of using their genitalia. Anal sex and lesbian sex is a misuse of what sexual relations were primarily intended to produce, children and intimacy solely between a man and a woman. Doctors agree that anal sex is a dangerous, unhealthy form of sexual contact as the anal cavity was not intended for that kind of use. Therefore, even with heterosexual couples this activity is not safe. 

I have been at the bedside of a friend who died of aids. His young life was cut short by some very bad decisions. My heart breaks for those who have died from their homosexual lifestyle, when they could have known the freedom to live free from sexual bondage through Jesus Christ.

http://www.pridesource.com/article.html?article=35233

http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/qa/transmission.htm

9. God did not intend for same sex relationships to exist.

Genesis 2:18-24 says that after God created Adam, He decided to take a rib out of Adam so that Adam might have someone who was “suitable for him.” (v.18).The word in the Hebrew is “neged” which means a “counterpart or opposite”, for Adam. Even the word heterosexual implies an intentional joining of two different parts that are meant to go together. ‘Hetero’ in the Greek language means “the other of two.” 

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/hetero-

Consider this, that God being all knowing would have pulled out 2 ribs if he thought that Adam should have the option of having a male mate as well. God would have also pulled out a rib from Eve so that she could have a female lover, if that was a godly option. But that is not what God intended from the beginning. He made them “male and female” that they would be joined. No other variation is acceptable in the Holy Scriptures.

We were created in the image of God. Homosexual relations are an affront to the very nature that we were meant to express, from that image we were made into. “He made them male and female. In the image of God did He create them.” God did not create quasi-males or quasi females. He made them to be either male or female. (In the instance of hermaphrodites, those children born with both genitalia, this is an expression of the fallen nature as with any other disease. This is not an endorsement from God for quasi female or males.) We are told to flee immorality and that those who are immoral have sinned against their own body, thus they do harm to themselves. (1 Corinthians 6:18).

10. Telling people that homosexuality is genetic denies them the right to be free from it

Homosexuals are not born homosexual as studies of identical twins confirm this fact. Studies have shown that identical twins could each have different sexual orientations, thus showing that homosexuality has little if anything to do with genetics. On the average, when one identical twin is homosexual, the other twin is homosexual 38% of the time. This does not give much credence to the popular notion that homosexuality is genetic.

Even if there were a genetic predisposition to a given behavior, this should not mean that one has license to practice that behavior. Predispositions to alcoholism, adultery, drugs, pornography or even homosexuality have more to do with our sin nature. All of these behaviors have been shown to be controlled by the Gospel of Jesus Christ, by denying our self and having the power of the Holy Spirit in one’s life. This fact has been confirmed in the myriad of testimonies of those who were saved in Christ from their sinful life of homosexuality. Those who affirm that it is just their nature or that they were born that way are only admitting that they are controlled by their sin nature and do not know how to be freed or do not want to be freed.

It is truly tragic that so many homosexuals are in bondage to that vice because they have accepted that lie that they were born that way. The only way their claim holds true is the same reason it holds true for me. We are all born sinners who need salvation and healing.

http://www.onenewsnow.com/Culture/Default.aspx?id=528376

http://www.narth.com/docs/whitehead2.html

Please go to these links for additional help:

Redeemed 10 ways to get out http://www.venusmagazine.org/cover_story.html

Groundbreaking' study shows 'gays' can change http://www.wnd.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=57658

Focus on the Family http://www.focusonthefamily.com/socialissues.aspx

Stephen Bennett Ministries http://www.igroops.com/members/sbm

Exodus International http://www.exodusinternational.org/default2.asp

Love Won Out http://www.lovewonout.com/

SCRIPTURES TO ENCOURAGE YOU

"And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and his neighbors, saying to them, 'Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep which was lost!' "I tell you that in the same way, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance. Luke 15:6-8 

“Straightening up, Jesus said to her, "Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?" She said, "No one, Lord." And Jesus said, "I do not condemn you, either Go From now on sin no more." John 8:10-11

“It was for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery.” Galatians 5:1

“For you were called to freedom, brethren; only do not turn your freedom into an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.” Galatians 5:13

“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

“When His disciples James and John saw this, they said, "Lord, do You want us to command fire to come down from heaven and consume them?" But He turned and rebuked them, and said, "You do not know what kind of spirit you are of; for the Son of Man did not come to destroy men's lives, but to save them." Luke 9:54-56

If you have any questions I will be happy to respond as best as I can. I truly desire that you would know the truth and that the truth would set you free! John 8:32

Phil Magnan mailto:info@bfamilyadvocates.com